Grasping is the most basic and important function of robots. However, the grasping performance of existing manipulators is far inferior to that of human hands. Human hands are able to evaluate the degree of incipient slip on contact surface based on tactile information during grasping process and thus regulate grasping force. As a result, humans can use the smallest possible grasping force while ensuring successful grasping, which maximizes the performance of their hands and avoids damaging the grasped object as much as possible. The existing incipient slip degree evaluation methods have certain shortcomings. So this paper proposes a novel method which can be applied to complex contact conditions where the incipient slip degree is not unidirectional and torque exists. Also, there are no restrictions on the material parameters and surface topography of the grasped object, and no need to obtain any information about it in advance. We construct a grasping force control strategy for parallel grippers based on this evaluation method, with the goal of enabling the gripper to achieve the similar grasping performance of human hands. The grasping strategy is verified in simulations and actual experiments, and the difference between the controlled force and minimum grasping force is demonstrated