This work proposes an ethical artificial intelligence optimization framework for cybersecurity tasks aiming at maximizing robustness, detection efficiency, minimizing computational complexity, and being compliant with ethics principles (fairness, transparency, etc.). Focusing on fast convergence on the one hand and a diverse solution search on the other, the framework employs metaheuristic optimization approaches like PSO and GA. We test this framework with real-world cyberattacks, for example, CICIDS and UNSW-NB15 datasets, to get results signifying adaptability to various attacks, with average F1-scores of 0.92 due to PSO and a high R(w) = 0.18 robustness metric via GA. Its explainability mechanism with SHAP and LIME explains the model predictions showing that features like packet size and connection durations were pivotal in impacting the model output. The learned adaptive configurations of optimization parameters (α, β, γ) make the framework customizable for diverse cybersecurity applications and accommodate tradeoffs between detection performance and adversarial robustness. Additionally, the framework is lightweight, allowing scalability to large datasets and high-dimensional use cases. Privacy-preserving approaches such as Federated Learning can also be incorporated into this framework, enabling its application to real-time cybersecurity attacks alongside hybrid optimization techniques. Such a framework will enable the development of secure, efficient, and ethically robust AI systems in sectors where AI must address the 21st-century security challenges.